Saturday, July 22, 2006

Old friends...Only their memories linger behind!

It was a lazy Sunday afternoon. After devouring on delectable pav-bhaji, I grabbed my remote and perplexedly toggled through channels with eyes half closed. I was almost dozing off, when suddenly my phone rang. Tanya was on line. It was almost five years, since we met. We were best friends in school. Bunking P.T. period, playing pranks, gossiping, sharing tiffin, solving worksheets…we did it all together. But then her dad got transferred to Delhi and we departed with promises of regular phone calls and e-mails. Initially we called up every week...then it reduced to once in a month and then only on birthdays. Since last two years we were completely out of touch.

Her call was a pleasant surprise to me. After the initial “hi” s and “how are you” s, we were in complete loss of topics. Promising to meet her at our favorite ice-cream parlor that evening, I slouched back into the comforts of my sofa cushions. My equations with her had changed. We dint share the same kind of liaison. Uncanny void had crept in our relationship.

This made me speculate…Are our relationships governed by distance and time? Is it because our priorities change? Or is it law of life? Are we so selfish that we let go people once we know that they won’t be around anymore? Or is it….out of sight out of mind? Are old memories like compilation of wonderful moments; we recollect, feel nostalgic and then move on? I fail to understand…what is it that undermines the glory of friendship?

8 comments:

Lucky said...

well aneesha i dont really agree wid u
m also doing engg n m in touch wid all scholl frnds
i still feel the warmth in their voice, the comfort and alleviation that exists in none of my new frnds' voices.
distances make no difference
sorry for disagreeing
cudn't help it.

che sara sara said...

yeah..me met two of my friends after 5 yrs....
it was real pleasant surpize for me
but i always felt men somehow managed to maintian their friendship...
when women..got entangled into the family chain....

The Unpaid Analyst said...

out of sight and near abt out of mind...after a period of time the person doesnt seem that fun anymore...Long distance frndships and relationships hardly ever work

harshad said...

i strongly think that it works according to "out of sight, out of mind"

I have chanmged my city as much as 4 times now, and it always happens to me. I feel bad about it, but then slowly i realize i have moved on...

Tejas said...

I have experienced both the angles. There are friends, whose whereabouts I hardly know and there are friends who make my day everyday despite the distance. Think the internet and the mobile phones have contributed a lot to the latter.

Nice blog Aneesha. Hope you don't mind mine linking yours.

Karthik said...

Distance and Time are certainly no constraints in this day and age .. It's more of the interest which u have in maintaining a relationship .. Also there are different categories of friends - some people who hang out with u for years, some who appear for a short time, but can make a world of difference to u, some whom u admire a lot but never get the same response back from them ..It's no big deal to start a relationship, but very difficult to sustain one !!

Anonymous said...

yeah its partially true, 'out of sight and out of mind'. but wat is more imp is that we shud not complain when we meet abt the distances between us.
abt the void which is created, i disagree. i meet some of my friends after long time but continue frm where we left last time....
but i think in the age of internet its really not very difficult to keep in touch wid ur old friends.

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